In order to uplift the planet, you have to be uplifted first. Get used to taking care of yourself so that you can be of greater service.
~Anita Moorjani
Our self-talk is the internal dialogue that is influenced by our subconscious minds. It reveals our inner thoughts and beliefs that can expose our positive and negative feelings about ourselves.
Negative self-talk is the dialogue that rolls around inside, telling us we are not enough. It may diminish our ability to communicate who we want to be. It shadows the first impression we make with insecurities and self-doubt. It can be viewed as a roadblock that prevents us from expressing our confidence, reducing our ability to believe in ourselves and weakening our self-esteem.
Learning to reframe our self-talk begins when we identify how negative thinking manifests.
4 Types of Negative Self-talk
- We Personalize and blame ourselves for everything.
- We Magnify the negative aspects, ignoring any of the positive.
- We Expect the worst and refuse to see another point of view.
- We Observe the world in absolutes: black and white or good and evil. No in-betweens.
When we begin to identify what type of negative thinking pattern we fall into, we can transition to a positive thinking mode.
Besides, when we hear, read, or speak words or phrases, they gain more power over us. Each time we repeat them, they become more concrete within our psyches.
Our brains cannot discern the difference, whether positive or negative. Therefore, they continually search for consistency. Whatever the brain hears the most, it will make real. If we listen to misinformation repeatedly yet hear the truth only once, our brains will believe the misinformation over the fact.
The negative words we use to describe ourselves are often steeped in beliefs and conditioning early in our lives. These words inadvertently reveal our inner dialog. Once we learn to choose words that build us up rather than tear us down, we will notice a shift within ourselves, creating a domino effect on how others see us.
The throwaway phrases we repeatedly say may start with these words: I can’t, I shouldn’t, I wouldn’t, I don’t, I am not. Unconsciously they may look like these: I look fat, I hate my hair, I’m stupid, I screw up relationships, I can never learn anything, I’ve never been good at that. I’m too old; I’m bad at…
Although these subconscious comments don’t feel like they can hurt us, they do.
I am not enough is often at the heart of our negative self-talk. Making blanket statements such as things never work, things always go wrong for me, and Life is so hard. We may not say these words out loud, but they will still influence our energy, manner, and communication.
Choosing the words we use, even if we do not feel them immediately, will still alter the energy we put out. So fake it until you make it.
Boost the positive vibrations of your words to describe what you are talking about. Great is a nice word; fantastic is even better.
Energy-boosting words:
accomplish, agreeable, unique, appealing, approving, awesome,
brilliant, delightful, easy, effortless, elegant, enchanting,
encouraging, energetic, engaging, enthusiastic, essential, esteemed,
exciting, exquisite, fantastic, flourishing, fortunate, friendly, fun,
generous, genuine, gorgeous, graceful, growing, happy,
harmonious, healthy, honest, honorable, imaginative, impressive,
independent, innovative, intelligent, intuitive, inventive, joy, kind,
knowing, knowledgeable, light, lively, lovely, lucky, luminous,
motivating, nurturing, open, optimistic, perfect, pleasant, plentiful,
poised, positive, powerful, prepared, moral, productive,
protected, proud, quality, ready, reassuring, refined, refreshing,
rejoice, reliable, remarkable, respected, reward, rewarding, soulful,
terrific, thriving, tranquil, transformative, trusting, valued, vital,
wealthy, welcome, willing, excellent, worthy, yes.
Letting go of the words I call energy stoppers: those negative words we use and any self-deprecating, self-hate, self-criticism, or gossip thoughts, and replacing them with self-love, gratitude, kindness, and conscious choices, we alter how our self-talk affects us.
The ability to change our world begins by being conscious of our thoughts. Not only will it level up our dynamic energy, but we will also enhance our relationship with the universe. By shifting our self-talk to the positive, we open the door to the power of manifestation. The impossible becomes possible.
To lose patience is to lose the battle. – Mahatma Gandhi
Young Hutchison
I can never have too many reminders regarding your discussion here. Funny right? You’d think it would be so easy to internalize these things so as to make them a permanent part of my thought process, and yet I fall back into old familiar patterns. So thanks for this!
charisse
We get stuck in the patterns of how we have ‘always’ been. Yet, if that is no longer working we have options to change the outcome! Thanks for the comment Young.